It is unlikely that someone is tearing down a house to build the exact same again. There will be improvements. You are usually planing for something different. You are going to create a house that is more comfortable, more beautiful or bigger. Just better in some form.

It’s interesting to observe, that we don’t do that with our life and the options we have. If we are completely defeated, we are focused on what we have lost. The lover left and we want them back. More precisely, we think we want them back. We are fixating on the loss and the person, who is not there anymore. The truth is people leave, because they are creating free space for new connections. But we are stuck in the past, instead of moving towards a better future for us.

I did the same thing after I lost my job. I knew I was good in design, because I have done that for more than 15 years. So, from January to August 2014 I did apply for 56 jobs as graphic designer — unsuccessfully. I was collecting rejections and I didn’t understand, that this was the opportunity to choose differently. I wasn’t able to imagine something better, an upgrade. Now, 6 years later I am working as marketing manager, which I never imagined being possible for me. Plus I am starting to write, which is exiting but still unfamiliar and therefore uncomfortable.

Hitting rock bottom was my chance to start fresh, to pick different options. New hairstyle. New wardrobe. A new me. Now, I am going to create the best life possible for myself. Improve my habits. Make space for new friends. Choose better. Explore foreign places. It is time to rewrite my life and make bold moves.